How Do I Teach My New Girlfriend To Reach Orgasm?

Are women really that different from each other? How do I teach my new girlfriend to reach orgasm? We will address the part about how women are different from each other. The fact of the matter is that there is great variability for women at the time of orgasm, that's the reason why women do not reach orgasm, the first time you have sex with a new partner. Often there is some learning that must take place in a new relationship before a woman is able to have an orgasm.

The reality is that some women are able to reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation, others through vaginal penetration, some through nipple stimulation, and some through the stimulation of the cervix. Therefore, different parts of the body can be more or less sensitive to erotic in women. But things become even more complex if one takes into account the personal preferences of women for the type of sexual activity (cunnilingus, intercourse, mutual masturbation, etc.) and how (speed, pressure, depth, etc.) occurs. 

Different things are comfortable with different women, which mean that it is not always wise to assume that you know what a woman likes based on what "worked" with a past partner. And keep in mind that a lot of guys who do not really know what "works" because a surprisingly high number of women fake orgasms, and man can not usually tell when this happens. Having a partner who repeatedly fakes orgasms easily can instill false beliefs in both men about their own sexual capabilities and what women enjoy.

With this in mind, the first thing I would suggest is just relax and communicate. Ask your partner what makes her feels good. The goal here is to try different things and find out what you like and do not like, however, do not put any pressure on her to reach orgasm. The two should only focus on providing pleasure to each other, not necessarily to get the other person to "get" to orgasm. It is dangerous to get into the mindset that you and or your partner are somehow the problem if orgasm does not occur during each sexual act. This achievement orientation, ironically, may make it less likely that orgasm occurs, causing anxiety and distraction.

If relaxation and communication do not help her to reach orgasm and she is distressed by this (keep in mind that not all women feel that orgasm is necessary), you can try the self-help route. In other words, try reading some sex books together to get some ideas for new activities to try. Sometimes an anatomy lesson or technique is all that is needed. If self-help books do not do the trick and she is still concerned about the lack of orgasm, then she might want to consider consulting with a doctor or sex therapist. There are a number of factors - biological, psychological and social factors that may inhibit the female orgasm.

As you can see, there are a number of things to consider here. However, let me reiterate that the important things to consider in the future will be to communicate early and often, avoid putting pressure on each other in other to reach orgasm, and remind yourself that sex can be good with or without orgasm.

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About Latoya Richards

Latoya Richard is a dating and relationship expert. Her passion is to write informative articles for people who want to improve their sex lives. Her article is for people who feel that there is something that needs to be done about their love and sex life. If you feel that sex between you and your partner is becoming boring and routine-like, her guide would offer tips to help you have better sex performance.