Is Sexual Performance Anxiety A Medical Case?

QUESTION–Can a Young couple experience anxiety of sex? I mess things up so bad anytime we are at it and my spouse thinks I have a medical condition.

In fact, the newly married are the couples that experience sexual performance anxiety the most due to the fact that they are virtually new at the game. They are also full of different kinds of worries such as the fear that you will not perform well in bed and satisfy your partner sexually, obsessive sense of poor body image, stress of planning for the wedding ceremony and demands from in-laws; a man’s worry that his penis will not measure up, a man’s concern about ejaculating prematurely or taking too long to reach orgasm or enjoy sexual experience.

These sexual performance anxiety cause your body to launch a response called “fight or flight”. Stress hormones like epinephrine and norepinephrine are released in a series of reactions that were actually designed to prepare your body to run or confront a threat. Of course, your partner is not a threat, which is why this response is so counterproductive to intimacy. Your state of mind can have a big impact on your ability to get aroused. Even if you are with someone who you find sexually appealing, worrying about whether you will be able to please your partner can make it impossible for you to do just that.

In men, one of the effects of stressed hormones is to constrict blood vessels. Less blood flowing into the penis makes it more difficult to have an erection. Even men who normally do not have trouble getting excited can become unable to get an erection when they are overcome by sexualperformance anxiety. It can affect arousal in women too. Anxiety can prevent women from being lubricated enough to have sex and it can take away the physical desire to make love. When you are confused on whether you will perform well, you cannot concentrate on what you are doing in bed. A distracted lover is an inattentive lover, which can make you feel like even more of a failure. Even if you are able to get aroused, you may be too distracted to reach orgasm. Sexual performance anxiety leads to a perpetual cycle. You become so anxious about sex that you cannot perform which leads to even more to sexual performance anxiety. It is more of a phycho-social case than medical. Visiting a sex therapist will help a great deal.

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About Latoya Richards

Latoya Richard is a dating and relationship expert. Her passion is to write informative articles for people who want to improve their sex lives. Her article is for people who feel that there is something that needs to be done about their love and sex life. If you feel that sex between you and your partner is becoming boring and routine-like, her guide would offer tips to help you have better sex performance.